Hi! I'm Ze! I started this blog on my 20th birthday (October 1, 2011). This is a blog about my twenties (the third decade)! I’m bisexual and bigender. I'm a mermaid, and I'm adorable. I talk about (intersectional) feminism, my experiences with gender and sexuality, silly fun stuff, relationships, media, and mental illness. I'm working on loving life and loving myself, expanding my horizons and getting my shit together. ;) I'm creative, queer, loving, excitable, passionate, fat, sexy, nerdy, and cuddly. I love reading, writing, live action role playing, Pusheen, wearing wigs, and being a cat. It's very nice to meet you! :) (Note: I tw/cw tag a lot of things, but I don't tag food--for my own mental health reasons. If you need anything else tagged though please let me know and I will tag it for you! I aim for a safe space.)
My friend drew my name and a kitty on her boobs and sent a picture to cheer me up.
(tw fatphobia) So, about “shallowness”
I want to point out something about the word “shallow” in relation to dating. “Shallow” refers to not deep—-looking at someone’s appearance only and not their personality.
So with that in mind, I am VERY uncomfortable with people who say they want to be attracted to fat people and “not be shallow”.
Because what that implies is that fat people are ugly, but that they should get past it because many of us are great people.
NOPE. Not flattering. There are people who ARE attracted to my outside, people who VERY SHALLOWLY want to have sex with me. And the people who see me that way AND love my personality? Those are the ones I want to date. Not people who “see past my flaws”. My body has no flaws (in relation to its appearance). It has disorders, and things that get in my way, but I have no appearance “flaws”. “Flaws” is a myth.
Don’t tell yourself you’ve gotten past your fatphobia because you’re being un-shallow about size. Stop thinking fat people are all unattractive, and then you’ve gotten past your fatphobia. Fat people look a TON of different ways. We have different sizes, shapes, faces, senses of style. If you find us *all* unattractive, that is beyond preference. That is prejudice. Examine that. And when you can be into us INSIDE AND OUT, then you deserve to date one of us.
You’re not doing us any favors by not being shallow.
Telling people that they can work around their disability if they try is really minimizing and erasing, and ableist. Even if you are also disabled. Cool, you could do it. I put 80% of my energy into surviving, and the last 20 into trying to write. I can’t have a full time job on 20% Sorry, I can’t. I AM working hard, to not starve out of lack of energy to eat. Don’t tell me what I can do if I just work hard enough. You don’t know how hard I’m working. Only I know that.
"you can’t ship that, that character has canon interaction with the opposite sex"
Oh god that is such a useful gif!
do you guys ever do that thing where you adjust the tabs because they don’t look like they’re in the right order
New installation by Pip & Pop in Kurashiki, Okayama: Through a Hole in the Mountain
I need to go to there.